life according to me

life according to me

Lavender and peace of mind

I’ve been thinking about my mom quite a bit lately. It isn’t that I don’t think of her, because she’s always in my mind at one point or another in a days’ time for any number of reasons.

When I leave something out of place, I hear her voice telling me to put it away. Or as I complete a task, I remember the times she explained how she would do it instead. I think of her when I cook and when I pull weeds, or when I simply think, because she does quite a bit of it herself.

Yes, I know everyone thinks. But there are different kinds of thinking. Some are good at avoiding their thoughts. Others think solely to work through the mechanics of a day or a week. Even a lifetime — just so they have something to think about.

There are those who keep themselves busy so they might avoid their thoughts. Perhaps moving one’s hands works as an eraser might, obliterating memories that replay themselves inhumanely.

Some people do all of the above simultaneously.

Relentlessly.

I can hear her thinking right now.

The lavender outside my back door is beautiful right now, its deep blue more intense than I’ve seen before. I let it get wild and rarely cut it to bring inside because I enjoy its cascade from the planter encroaching onto the flagstones, the long stems pushing skyward, attracting bees and butterflies. When I brush my hand over the blossoms, sweet fragrance fills the air.

I couldn’t resist cutting a handful to put in an old vase she gave me a few years ago.

Lavender for my mom…

Lavender is soothing, relaxing the mind and the body, and it’s what I always want for her more than anything else.

So on this Love Thursday, I’m thinking of this first day of spring, and fragrant flowers.

I’m thinking of my mom.



12 thoughts on “Lavender and peace of mind”

  • I lost my mom 2 1/2 years ago and I think about her all the time. She seems to be everywhere and I had a good cry about her yesterday thinking of her missing all these milestones in the lives of my children whom she adored so much. Thanks for your touching Love Thursday post!

  • paisley, I do too, and sometimes go to the bulk bins at Henry’s where I can purchase a big scoop to keep around the house. It’s incredible!

    Thank you very much, Gina — you are an excellent daughter! I, on the other hand, am often not and always feel as if I need to improve. I hope your conversation with your mom is lovely.

    Kelly, I’m so sorry to read of the loss of your mother and can’t imagine. Goodness…Thank you for your kinds words.

  • I adore lavender and my mother and I both adore lilacs, she always wrote/emailed me at school on the day they bloomed just to let me know they had. Lilac had to be everywhere though in Tasmania we only had a small shrub lilac.

    Thanks for sharing.

    I think I smell lavender now.

  • That was so nicely written. I LOVE lavendar, but have a very difficult time growing it for some reason. You yard sounds beautiful. Have you tried lavendar ice cream? Heaven in a bowl!!

  • This is a lovely post. And it reminded me of the French tradition of lavender lemonade. I love the taste. I Googled for a recipe and found one that is closest to what I remember on plaincook dot com.

  • Lavendar is one of my favorite smells in the world…it grows like a WEED around here. I have a bunch of it outside my bedroom window so I can smells it…mmmmmmm!
    Lovely post!!!

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